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15 Classic Dating Mistakes

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You thought you did everything right. You were charming. You looked nice. You smelled great. And you really seemed to hit it off with your date. But a few weeks pass and you haven’t heard back, and it’s looking like you won’t get that second chance. What happened?


Perhaps it’s because you fell victim to one of the 15 classic dating mistakes. These mistakes can turn a killer date into a dud in no time, so commit these to memory and make sure you don’t fall into these traps.

1. Onion breath


Bad breath is often cited as the no.1 dating turn-off for men and women. Think about it— if you’ve got bad breath, how do you expect someone to want to kiss you? Pack the breath mints and you’ll be fine.

2. Awkward conversation


If there are too many awkward pauses or dull moments in a conversation, it could sink your chances. Pro tip: ask your date about their passions in life, they’ll always love to talk about them.

3. Too much “me” talk


Too much “me” talk often conveys you care more about yourself than your date. Try to always do as much listening as you do talking.

4. Not dressing the part


Looking like you just rolled out of bed is a great way to nuke any chances you may have had. Put on some of your nicer clothes— you don’t have to wow your date, but just let them know you care enough to look nice.

5. Showing up late


Sitting by yourself at a table for two hours waiting for your date to show up isn’t just frustrating— it’s embarrassing. It’s also the perfect way to get off on the wrong foot. If you’re gonna be late, let your date know as soon as possible.

6. Not paying the bill


Sorry fellas, it’s just one of the harsh realities of dating. You have to pay for the bill if you don’t want to look like a scrub. You won’t always have to pay for everything, but on the first few dates, get your wallet out before she does.

7. Having one too many


We know— having a drink or two is a great way to take the edge off and allow the conversation to flow more naturally. But if you get too drunk you’ll turn off your date in a hurry. Watch your intake.

8. Being a negative Nancy


You’ve got to keep it positive on dates. If you’re date hears too much complaining or trash-talking, some of it is gonna spill out onto their impression of you.

9. Bragging


The only people that can get away with bragging are politicians and rappers. If you don’t fall into either of those categories (read: you don’t), then don’t go out of your way to tout your accomplishments. If they find out about them on their own accord, then you’ve scored some major points.

10. Too much self deprecation

Self deprecating humor can be a great way to endear yourself if you use it in moderation. Too much of it, however, and you’ll come off as lacking confidence and self-esteem. Remember— confidence, not cockiness.

11. Princess mode


Ladies, the last thing men want is to date a girl who thinks she’s a princess. Try to put aside any feelings of entitlement. Yes— your date should pay for your meal, but that doesn’t mean you get to order the surf n’ turf for dinner.

12. Talking about you ex


A date is about a new beginning and the potential to find a meaningful connection with someone else. It’s not a chance to unload pent up frustration from the way your ex treated you. Avoid bringing them up for all costs.

13. Having a one-track mind


There’s a stigma that all men care about is sex, and it can be one of the biggest turn offs for women. Let them know that you’re here for something more meaningful, and they won’t write you off as just another one of those guys.

14. Bad dancing


In this world there are only two types of people: good dancers, and awful dancers. If you don’t think you’re in the first group, avoid the dance floor until you up your skills. And no— overtly grinding does not put you in the “good” camp.

15. Career talk


Let’s be honest—the mundane details of your job aren’t very interesting to the outside world. You also don’t want to come off as career-obsessed. So unless your job is wrestling crocodiles in the Florida Everglades, keep career talk to a minimum.

If you think you might have committed one of these errors, don’t get too down on yourself. There are thousands of more black singles for you to meet. And armed with the knowledge of these classic errors, you won’t make the same mistake twice.

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